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  • Modern Romance
  • Aziz Ansari
  • English
  • 08 February 2020
  • 9781594206276

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Free download Modern Romance ↠ E-book, or Kindle E-pub Summary õ E-book, or Kindle E-pub ´ Aziz Ansari T modern romance but for Modern Romance the book he decided he needed to take things to another level He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita They analyzed behavioral data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit which drew thousands of messages They enlisted the world’s leading social scientists including Andrew Cherlin Eli Finkel Helen Fisher Sheena Iyengar Barry Schwartz Sherry Turkle and Robb Willer The result is unlike any social science or humor book we’ve seen beforeIn Modern Romance Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic worl. Aziz Ansari is a funny guy I ve enjoyed his work as an actor and a comedian so I shouldn t have been surprised when I really liked his book But I was surprised especially when I learned that he had teamed up with a sociologist and did actual research on modern romance Aziz was interested in how technology has changed dating culture and he opens the book with a funny story about a girl Tanya who didn t text him back after he had asked her out He realizes that texting and social media and dating apps and emojis have become increasingly important in dating and relationships and he and a sociologist set out to research the subject For example they conducted interviews with people from a wide variety of ages and backgrounds and they even traveled to other countries to get some international data on romance One aspect of their research I found especially interesting was that online dating sites and apps such as Matchcom and Tinder have dramatically increased the number of options for people but having so many choices can be overwhelming It makes it harder for some people to choose someone because there are always profiles to check One woman told the story of how she would check Tinder before going a date just in case she saw someone interesting than the guy she was supposed to meetI also liked the perspective of elderly folks who were interviewed Overwhelmingly the women who got married young wished they hadn t been pressured to find a husband so uickly Even in cases where the women had relatively happy marriages they felt a sense of loss because they didn t get a chance to experience being single in their 20s or have time to live independently without relying on a parent or a husband to support themI love sociology and I thought this book was a delightful blend of Aziz s humor and sociological insights I listened to this on audio and Aziz was a very funny performer He had me laughing within the first minute and this book made a long road trip seem very short I would recommend it to anyone interested in the sociology of dating or who also wants a good laugh

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Free download Modern Romance ↠ E-book, or Kindle E-pub Summary õ E-book, or Kindle E-pub ´ Aziz Ansari H she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods Combos” “My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan Who’s Nathan Did he just send her a photo of his penis Should I check just to be sure” But the transformation of our romantic lives can’t be explained by technology alone In a short period of time the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically A few decades ago people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood Their families would meet and after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer they would get married and soon have a kid all by the time they were twenty four Today people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a uest to find the perfect person a soul mateFor years Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight a. I am a satisfied singleI did not coin that term I did hear it from somewhere but I don t remember who said it Sorry person who said it Anywaywhat this means to me is that I m fine with being on my own It s easy Would I like to meet the love of my life or the man of my dreams my soul mate if you will Sure I d be alright with that in fact it would be great But I m not holding my breathAm I willing to spend hours and hours poring over profiles reading messages from guys that put little to no effort into writing them Nope I have better things to do But if I stumble upon my prince charming by chance Cool The world is available to us but that may be the problem Truth It s exhaustingIn Modern Romance Aziz explorers and compares how people once found one another to how we painstakingly do today and he does a damn fine job of it And he s really funny too People who own iPhones are twice as likely to sext as people who use Androids Huhwho knew The most popular time to sext is Tuesday between 1000 AM and noon Yes we looked this up twice Strange Againhuh We have two selves a real world self and a phone self and the nonsense our phone selves do can make our real world selves look like idiots Our real world selves and our phone selves go hand in hand Act like a dummy with your phone self and send some thoughtless message full of spelling errors and the real world self will pay the price The person on the other end sees no difference between your two selves They never think Oh I m sure he s much intelligent and thoughtful in person This is just his lazy phone persona I have the best example of this from some guy who was trying to git wit me Seriously Trying to impress me and this is what he put forthnever mind that he never not once asked me a uestion about myself There was a bunch of attempts before this but this is where I was trying to get him to have a conversationask somethinganything Guy Just dont wanna be a pest Juzy tell me to go away HshaMe You re a nice enough guy name redacted I m just confused on why you re interested in me I have no idea if we have anything in commonwhat do you think we might have in common What are your interestsyour views Guy Juzt looking for someone to someone to hang with Nothing huge Conversaytion share interest Love the fsct ur artsy U seem passionste bout what u do And easy to look at Im harmless I dint bite I said something then he sent this gemGuy I work afternoons during thr week Love to do an art walk in lakrwood or something Then walk the state park thete Just a thoygjt WHAT THE HELL Needless to say I did not go out with this guy who dint bite and have a conversaytion with himI wasn t sure I d understand him Look I suck at spelling but I know for a fact that devices today help a person out with that problem In fact you would have to try pretty hard to screw up that bad AND I hate hate hate the ur and u people you re phone will helpfully put the word you up on the top there for you if typing three letters is too much work for youHuffhuffhuff why even try at all sir if that is the best you can do I m 999% sure this guy will never read this review At least I hope soI ll end this with one last uote Marriage was an economic institution in which you were given a partnership for life in terms of children and social status and succession and companionship But now we want our partner to still give us all these things but in addition I want you to be my best friend and my trusted confidant and my passionate lover to boot and we live twice as long So we come to one person and we basically are asking them to give us what once an entire village used to provide Give me belonging give me identity give me continuity but give me transcendence and mystery and awe all in one Give me comfort give me edge Give me novelty give me familiarity Give me predictability give me surprise And we think it s a given and toys and lingerie are going to save us with that Ideally though we re lucky and we find our soul mate and enjoy that life changing mother lode of happiness But a soul mate is a very hard thing to find That s a lot to ask I was pleasantly surprised by how good this book was Enjoy

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Free download Modern Romance ↠ E-book, or Kindle E-pub Summary õ E-book, or Kindle E-pub ´ Aziz Ansari Now a New York Times BestsellerA hilarious thoughtful and in depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation’s sharpest comedic voicesAt some point every one of us embarks on a journey to find love We meet people date get into and out of relationships all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection This seems standard now but it’s wildly different from what people did even just decades ago Single people today have  romantic options than at any point in human history With technology our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering So why are so many people frustratedSome of our problems are uniue to our time “Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza” “Should I go out with this girl even thoug. I got married in 1989 In India in those days love marriages were still exceptions rather than the norm when you had to look at the religion caste family background and age of a possible partner who was to share your life divorces were absolute stigma before hitching up falling in love was like solving a mathematical euation with too many constraints For a nerdy uncouth shy and bookish youngster who got tongue tied in presence of a halfway pretty girl this was even of a nightmareFortunately as an educated young man from an aristocratic family with a good job to boot my prospects on the marriage market were bright In the world of arranged marriages I was hot property Like Mr Bingley and Mr Darcy in Pride and Prejudice mothers with daughters of marriageable age who knew my mother or father considered me as the rightful property of their daughters Discussions of possible alliances were rife and my mother was having to fend off uite a few of her aggressive friendsEven though it gave my ego a sort of boost to be so sought after in my heart of hearts I was intimidated by the thought of marriage On the one hand I was an incurable romantic always falling in love with a pretty girl and writing bad poetry on the other my cynical and sarcastic self continuously mocked me Also as a rebellious liberal I was against the whole concept of arranged marriages So I shied away from all the proposals giving the excuse that I was not readyOne day in February 1989 I went into my favourite bookshop and came across an unbelievable book sale where I picked up a bunch of absolutely awesome books for a pittance I came home drunk on my luck when my mother told me that a marriage proposal had come from her classmate and close friend for her daughter In the euphoria of getting all those cool tomes I agreed to see the girl s photoI got it a couple of days later just took one look at it and fell head over heels in love A meeting was arranged the coming week we talked to each other for around 20 minutes and hey presto I was engaged We got married that DecemberWe have been together ever since So I always wonder is romance all it s cracked up to be Pardon this lengthy episode about my marital journey I was continuously reminded of the good old days while reading this book especially when I read thisPeople in arranged marriages start off lukewarm but over time they really invest in each other and in general have successful relationships They are invested in the deep commitment to the relationship rather than being personally invested in finding a soul mate which can tend to lead to the Is there something better out there for me mentality In the current world of internet dating I would still probably be swiping right on a dating app looking for that perfect girl waiting out there for meAziz Ansari has done a wonderful job of explaining how the digital world has invaded the romantic arena In olden days the only hope of meeting a possible partner was out in the real world If you were a caveman you just banged the nearest attractive female on the head and dragged her into your cave in modern times you met her in family gatherings at the workplace and later on in singles bars However since you were geographically limited there was a limit to your romantic territory The upside People got married with someone they found reasonably attractive and settled downNow with the advent of the internet the sky is literally the limit People can visit dating sites with dating apps like Tinder just swiping right on an attractive picture is enough If the other person also swipes right you are practically hitchedThis is happening a lot in India too We have marriage sites where you can filter down the choices caste and state wise and pick up a romance which will be easily approved by family People have started calling them arranged love marriages Talk about oxymoronsHowever the downside of this infinite choice that one keeps on window shopping Less and less people settle down they remain digital Casanovas throughout their life The relative anonymity provided by computers have a helped a lot of nerdy types get in on the act so while romance has flourished marriage has taken a hit And it does not help that even adultery has become easier with the advent of sextingMy main problem with this book is that Ansari continuously tries to do his stand up comedy act It is not needed the subject is fascinating by itself And the jokes fall rather flat in the print medium I must say Oh one last thing if I had started my romantic life after the advent of goodreads I would hazard a guess and say that I d still be single I am so hopelessly in love with most of the wonderful ladies out here that I d still be debating on whom to bang on the head and drag into my cave D